Co-parenting will mean active role of both parents in their child/children’s life even after divorce. Before you decide upon going for co-parenting, take in account:
- How much time can you give your child
- Can you and your former spouse manage to agree upon parenting issues?
- Can your disagreements affect your co-parenting roles?
Benefits of Co-parenting after Divorce
Co-parenting is the best way to help your kids tackle difficult situations like divorce and separation
. It is much easier for the children to adapt to such a scenario if they know both of their parents will be there for them. Raising your kids should top your priority list and co-parenting is the best way out of an otherwise awkward situation for your kids:
- Co-parenting establishes and encourages effective communication between you and your children.
- Both you and your former spouse are there to provide emotional and monetary support to the kids.
- Your children will have balanced and stable personalities.
- Your children will not feel deserted as both of the parents will be there.
No matter what the circumstances are, after divorce or separation, the parents will be taking care of their mutual children.
You need to agree upon all the issues related to co-parenting to make your co-parenting agreement work. For the good of your children, you two will have to agree on issues like child custody and conflict suppression (atleast infront of your children). Co-parenting agreement will also include agreeing upon deciding for your children, sharing of schedules, emergency and discipline handling.
You have to decide a policy in which you will share responsibilities and take co-parenting decisions. You can choose from the following three situations:
- Will you be the only one deciding all the above mentioned issues?
- Will you and your spouse jointly decide?
- Will it be your former spouse who will be the one taking decisions?
The decisions can include just about every thing: from what your child will eat to what toys they should have and from the friends they should keep to which school they should go to.
How to Make Co-parenting a Success
- Do not send each other messages through your children. They are prone to misreport and take advantages.
- Discipline can be a problem between you and your former spouse. If you have different discipline rules, your child may find it difficult to switch. Set the same discipline rules.
- Never say anything bad about the other spouse even after divorce. It will have a negative effect on your child.